Cuz my mom wants to “talk to me” and idk what about
I get coffee with my mom once or twice a month. Usually we just swap stories about our jobs, home life, what her next vacation is going to be (61 so shes been doing 2 or 3 vacation type trips a year), what we’ve been cooking lately, what we plan to cook next, how my animals are, try to convince her to get a dog/cat again, how my girl is, if we’ve read/watched anything mutually interesting lately, what my sister is up to, our mutual disdain for my father, her latest volunteer/community project not attached to her job (big wig social worker), sometimes I try to explain niche internet thing and since we agree on most things politically we talk about current events.
With dad: mundane stuff, like the whether and such.
With mom: geopolitical, philosophical and historic analysis about current events… And mundane stuff too.
The thing is, my mom is an Historian with a PhD, while my dad worked for an oil company. Also, I hanged out with my mom more while growing up cuz dad had to work in others states for weeks, so I couldn’t see him much.
Regardless, I enjoy talking with both of them. Mostly cuz I don’t make much of it, I don’t try to be smart, clever or anything. I just speak my mind out with naturality, depending on how my relationship with the person I’m talking to is.
Usually it’s intense debates over who the prettiest kitty is. Invariably we always conclude that it’s her, that she is in fact the prettiest kitty.
Politics/news and how’s work mostly.
If you have a healthy relationship with your mom, it could be that she just wants to connect- it’s a normal thing in relationships, especially if you don’t see each other all the time or aren’t very involved in each others’ lives.
My parents live on the opposite side of the country from me, so I typically only get to see them a few times a year. To keep in touch, I talk to both my parents on the phone pretty frequently.
My dad and I talk probably more days than we don’t. We chat about work, hobbies, and sometimes the news. He and I are both engineers and we’re on a similar wavelength, so we get pretty deep into work and I go to him for career advice.
I talk to my mom maybe once or twice a week and usually it’s about more surface-level stuff: the dog, family updates, my relationship, and what we’ve been up to lately.
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Crazy to me that parents want to talk to their kid 😢
Everything!
As a Hongkonger, we have a concept called “living with your parents” that westerners may not understand. ;)
Our conversations can range from where we’re going for lunch to what to do with my parents after they die.
what to do with my parents after they die
No wayyy
My parents would just be like “啋，大吉利是” (or the 台山話 equivalent of it which i have no idea how to type it) and tell me it’s “晨早流流, 唔好意頭” or something and tell me to stop talking about death.
They literally refuse to buy houses that ends with a number 4 (I mean like the address number) 🤣
My Paternal Grandmother died and then like you can’t even talk about spending less on the funeral, cuz then Paternal Grandfather gets mad…
lmfao what
those coffins cost like 幾萬美金 what the fuck
funerals are scams, my dad got so mad when I suggested to just toss grandma in the trash lol (I said it as a joke)
Btw how close are you with parents?
I used to cuddle with mom when I was a kid, and I used to sleep in my parents bed even up till middle school age… is that like… normal?
Cuz I did a google search and it says Asians are typically “not that affectionate”
but then now I get older, and not an adorable little boy anymore, mom said “以前細個好乖呀，而家越大越唔聽話”, and I feel like my parents just hate me now
Life feels so depressing without 母愛 😭
Literally the things that are important to you. What do you talk about with friends? Most of those topics are a good start.
