Assuming sex with another person is not an option. What are some good ways to release or divert sexual frustration?
Masturbation.
You know the old saying: Six wanks a day keeps the sex drive away.
Masturbate.
Then once that is out of the way, go ahead and start working on whatever it is that is stopping you from boning.
Well, I just don’t feel ready to have a connection and I am not into casual sex.
Try new stuff, get some toys.
I gave up on dating a while back. Nothing but red flags out there. Fleshlights are the answer. I’ve got way more time to spend on hobbies by not dating. Some people may think it’s sad and pathetic, but my life is peaceful and mostly stress free. So I’m good with it.
good for you. i gave up dating like 6 years ago and my life improved massively.
the worst thing that ever happened to me was having girlfriends. all they did was make every issue in my life worse, and cause issues where there were not. funny thing about life being single is that… i have no issues or problems and most of my goals wer easily achievable without someone nagging me and telling me how awful/stupid my goals are.
sex was nice. i miss it. but the bullshit that i had to deal with to get sex was just… ruining my life emotionally, financially, and health wise.
and everytime i try to date again… it’s the same crap. being told that I’m stupid/wrong/bad and should change my entire life to meet her preferences. or being told that i am a project boyfriend because i’m not a globe trotting, fashion forward, multi millionaire that every woman i meet seems to think is what she ‘deserves’.
It’s not sad and pathetic, especially if that’s what you want.
I just bought myself a Hismith and, well, it solved a lot of problems. Now, how to tell my wife I’m leaving her for a clanker.
Lift weights
Other than jorking it? Hobbies. It’s crazy the shit you’ll make when you’re fueled by lust and channel that in to something.
Also as someone who gets suspicious of the self help industrial complex it’s not a bad motivator for doing initial self improvement measures. Much of the societal mandate to grow is based on us perceiving ourselves as “not enough” and I think “I’m horny” is actually a way better reason to pick up a new skill or try to build muscle. As long as you know that doesn’t actually lead to sex but do it anyway.
How do you channel hornyness into something that isn’t sexual?
For me I did things that were physically active. I might just be weird but I think since we evolved to be hunter gatherers our bodies probably equate most physical exercise to libido on some level. Like, if you run really hard and use your hand-eye coordination then Grug will let you smash.
I’ve heard creatives describe their work as libidinous too though, but in more abstract ways like using art to capture the sensuality of something like the ocean. I can’t attest to that personally but I definitely can feel it in music composition.
Arnold Schwarzenegger compares going to the gym with sex: “It’s like I’m coming day and night!”
Learn to play the flute?
Sex workers exist. Pay and treat them well.
After years of sexual frustration & disappointments, the pattern became a permanent set of learned helplessness, I went insane and learned life isn’t fair, and slowly spiralled into insular isolated rotting away.
Even now, three men keep texting me for booty calls but they’re too late. Loneliness is so deep now, nobody can pull me out. And booty calls are an insult to my dignity & long-term needs for meaningful human companionship.
Take the booty calls. It’s step one in pulling yourself back out, not the end game. Nothing wrong with taking care of your needs, sounds like that’s what they’re doing. Feeling wanted, even just for a one-nighter is a solid way to start building confidence back. Been there, done this.
That first paragraph hits a little close to home. For what it’s worth, I’m sorry. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Meditation.
Stupid sexy meditation!
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Find someone running a service or a company for that.
Edge.
I’ve been in a dry spell my entire life.
