Thank goodness this never happened to me cause my parents were good parents, it’s just as much the childrens home as the parents and children should be allowed to say “I don’t feel comfortable with another man or woman living hear” Its the parents responsibility to make sure their children are comfortable and feel safe around a new adult. The parent should plan a public meet and greet parent, child, step and after each one the children should have the right to say no more and it end there.
I think asking their opinion on the new adult is fine. Like if my mom started dating a guy who was drunk all the time and made disgusting remarks about her, I’d want her to know I dont like him and he sucks. But i’ll be real with you, when I was a kid and my parents got a divorce I hated every guy my mom saw, and if I had the deciding say as a child she wouldnt be with the man shes with now. But now I realize my stepdad is one of the best people Ive ever met and if I was broken down at 3am 200 miles away all it would take is a phone call and he’d be getting his boots on to come help. I dont think children are mature enough to be the deciding factor of a decision like this
I too had great step dad. Yeah I agree kids should not have a say unless that person is a horrible person.
Good parents take care of their children, and provide a safe home to live in; however the children do not have an ultimate say. A good parent would have a discussion to explain the situation and also be sure the person moving in is safe to have around the children they’re responsible for, but ultimately the grownups pay the bills, put clothes on the children’s backs, and put food on the table. If the child feels entitled to an equal share vote in the household decisions then expectations should be managed.
the children should have the right to say no more and it end there
Or what?
Don’t be surprised when they don’t talk to you when grown up or ask to live with the other parent because you are prioritizing your new partner over your literal children. Also violating their consent.
There is no bigger cock-blocker than the children of single mothers. Giving them veto power to make mom an actual involuntary celibate is too much.
They can still have a relationship just no living in the same house
If a kid doesn’t like one of their parents because they are forced to do chores and eat their veggies, should the kid have a say in whether or not that parent gets to stick around? I’d argue no, because as a child, the mind is not fully developed and decisions are coming from a possibly hormonal, emotional child. It would be foolish of a parent to ignore a child saying they don’t like someone if the reasoning makes sense, but kids dont get to decide the lives of their parents. If a new person is coming into the house and makes the kid feel uncomfortable for legit reasons, not, “I don’t like them”, then their opinion matters. Outside of that it carries very little weight, because kids are fucking stupid.
I read “adult move” as “adult movie” and was very confused
An adult does not need a minors consent to do anything.
It’s the other way around. Be the parent. Do not look to a child for answers you’re expected to already have.
There is no argument you will find that trumps what I am telling you.
