• @Shardikprime@lemmy.world
    76•23 days ago

    Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.

    Would die for each other tho.

    • @slappypantsgo@lemm.eeEnglish
      34•23 days ago

      And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.

      • @tauren@lemm.eeEnglish
        16•23 days ago

        I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.

      • @exasperation@lemm.eeEnglish
        -5•23 days ago

        Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️

        I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.

  • @beejboytyson@lemmy.world
    40•23 days ago

    I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.

    • @Dumbkid@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      10•22 days ago

      Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.

    • NιƙƙιDιɱҽʂ
      5•22 days ago

      True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.

      I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.

    • @squeekers@lemm.ee
      1•23 days ago

      But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos

    • @Snowclone@lemmy.world
      5•22 days ago

      Yes. That’s a big part of what’s going on. A lot of men, particularly poor and middle class, have no real culture of interaction and have been told they are worth the money they make a month and nothing else.

  • oppy1984English
    17•23 days ago

    Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.

      • oppy1984English
        1•22 days ago

        It’s probably been two years. Ever since he got married and moved out of town this has been normal for us. Also he works during the day and I work during the night so it’s difficult to find a good time to talk.

  • @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    10•23 days ago

    As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much

    • @mriormro@lemm.ee
      13•23 days ago

      This idea that any kind of relationship should be effortless and easy is, frankly, incredibly absurd. Good relationships (of which friendships are) take real effort and work. If you don’t want to put that work in to it then you need a pet rock, not a friend.

        • @exasperation@lemm.eeEnglish
          2•23 days ago

          once you’ve made friends for life, they stick

          People drift apart. Actually making the effort to communicate and meet up occasionally is important for maintaining those relationships. If you’re not in the place where you’re can stay aware of major life changes (marriage, divorce, kids, major career changes, moves between cities, major illness or injury, deaths in family, etc.), were you really “friends for life”?

          Even making brunch plans in my 40s requires consulting a calendar. That naturally shrinks the number of close friends in the mix. I’m closer with my friends who live close than the ones who live far, simply out of inertia, that maintaining those relationships takes less effort.