I really wish we could disable PMs from anyone but admins or mods of comms we subscribe to, like you can on reddit. There will never be a day when I want to receive a PM from anyone on Lemmy. It’s nothing personal, there’s lots of cool people here, but I’m not interested in being pen pals. I’m just here for the public forum.
Ooh! You sound sexy and I definitely want to be your pen pal! I’ve sent you a DM!
Also, I have a great business opportunity for you if you’re interested! Have you ever heard of NFTs?
NFTs went away for a while because of crime and scams, but they fixed all those problems I swear. NFTs are the sexiest investment a sexy person could make, and they’re even better now that the leaders are implementing AI! It’s going to be revolutionary! It’s like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI. It’s the bees knees! It’ll make Stephen Hawking blush! I’ll help broker it for you, and if you send me 1 NFT, I will send you 2 back just because I like you.
Can’t wait for your reply!! ❤️
like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI
Aaaaaaaa. Thanks, I hate it. You successfully trolled me.
I also would have accepted E = McHammer
The McHammer is my favourite Happy Meal choice
STOP!
Just pm’d you asking for more deets.
If we were on Reddit, OP’s inbox would get flooded with messages, but Lemmy isn’t active enough for that…
Or come hang out with us at room/hell
– Comedy Heaven
I didn’t get one 😔
I did. I didn’t think it was a catfish though. I assumed it was some person promoting their streaming shit. Kinda smart, a smaller, mostly nerdy community of niche interests.
Doesn’t mean I didn’t block them though.
Got 4 copies of it, I don’t even know how to send a message to “all” here, didn’t think it was possible.
Besides all that drama of OP:
Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool. The problem is as always that we can not trust these messages because of the last decade of misuse on various platforms. Even if we take out all the scams, we only accept the right message in the right medium: If someone would write me what OP posted on LinkedIn, I would read it as a business inquire connection (at best). If she would write me that on Tinder&co, I would take it as an avance. If I would get a message like that on facebook, I do not believe in it as a honest request anymore. On Insta I would read it as a scam too. But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”. We need a Platform/Network/Medium to give a room to actually send a message like that where a connection without the aspect of business or sex is assumed because of the choosen Platform/Network/Medium.
The Fediverse will not solve this problem sadly, as it is mainly just decentralized, but is not out to solve societary tilts and disgraces. But it is nice to think that such a place/site/room could exist (one day?) where a person (even of another gender) could have an exchange like that without bad intentions. As usally, The good ones are silent, and the loud ones are scams.
The loneliness epidemic in a nutshell: we feel we can’t trust people being open and friendly.
That isn’t normal, by the way.
The problem isn’t that we feel we can’t trust them. It’s that we actually can’t trust them. Trusting someone that messages you that way is likely to end up with you in a bathtub full of ice, or at the very least, a compromised bank account.
I didn’t mean to say the well hasn’t been poisoned, only that we need a source of water.
Yeah that’s a pretty concise sitrep.
But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”
I’m not sure this is possible on the internet in general. Even in the early days of facebook people were forced to grow suspicious of their old acquaintances reaching out to say hi only to be hit with some “be your own boss!” MLM schtick, and that was when you could be fairly confident the sender was a real person that you actually have known for some time. Not to mention how suspicious we all are of some of the “living my best life!” type of humble-brag posts that are really just sad people playing pretend.
Add a layer of anonymity and I’m just not sure genuine trust could ever be possible. Try to take away anonymity and you wander into the quagmire that is personal privacy and still can’t avoid the possibility of scams and compromised accounts.
I think that the Internet as a Medium simply cannot do what we have been trying to force it to do for years - serve as a good “third place” for socialization. Do people make friends here? Absolutely. But people make friends in the ICU, doesn’t mean we should install a bar there.
Mastadon is this way for me
That’s basically how people introduced themselves on the public discord servers I frequented during the pandemic and it was normal
I don’t know what drama you think op is introducing
Yeah, but also, such a thing could only result in meaningful physical relationships if the servers/communities have some kind of “local” association. For example, a server for france, one for italy, and one for the netherlands, you know what i mean?
Otherwise, if you just want to flirt and be silly, i recommend the !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone community comment sections.
Even weirder, a user named “sognar” was posting their picture as a comment.
Seemed odd to me… Comment is removed now.
Oh so that’s why, I reverse searched the image earlier and it linked to that post. Looks like there is another image on that profile now
I thought this was funny
Imagine unwarping the face 😆
Got thar same message. Basic policy: ignore.
As a mod in other coomunities, please report these as quickly as you can. They can generally be taken care of quickly.
I had this aswell. Will do.
I also just got it.
Thanks for the heads up! I never PM anyone on social media platforms unless I’ve met them in real life and they expressed actual openness to talking to me.
I think that’s pretty good, we’re reaching the big leagues 🚀 🥳
I, too, was approached by Missy/Nicole.
I got it too. Looks like maybe they were banned because it disappeared from my inbox
Yeah this was the first thing that i saw in the morning and it was so surreal. I literally woke up, grabbed my smartphone, went to lemmy inbox, and saw this message three times in a row. Clicked through all of them, then fell back to sleep, only to wake up an hour ago and now i see this meme. I guess i wasn’t dreaming this up after all.
