I’ve been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I’m a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.
Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it’s gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!
It’s also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.
So today on International Women’s Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don’t want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you’re killing it.
This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.
Um…anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I’ve given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we’re planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me 😄
There are dozens of us! But seriously I’ve been so happy to be a lady on here and have good conversations with damn near everyone. As for treating myself, I am looking forward to my husband cooking us a nice dinner this weekend.
Oh nice, what’s the food plan? Or is it a surprise?
We’ll be having crispy hawaiian tofu tomorrow which is just about my fave food in the whole world, husband is also doing the cooking (he actually does that every day because he’s one of those weirdos who enjoy it). Still very much looking forward to it though, not having to cook for myself never gets old!
We alternate cooking special meals on the weekends. Last weekend I didn’t a pulled pork butt in the crockpot and this weekend he’s going to do a nice steak dinner with mashed potatoes. Beef is a little expensive right now but we both wanted a real treat.
That’s such a cozy tradition, I hope it’s exactly as delicious as you’re imagining!
Would be very curious to hear about more about your husband’s crispy hawaiian tofu! I love tofu in any and all fashions and am always interested to find new ways to make it :)
It started with this recipe although I have no idea what tweaks he’s made to it since! https://www.rabbitandwolves.com/crispy-hawaiian-garlic-tofu-vegan/
I do know the trick for us is to freeze the tofu first but as a fellow enjoyer I daresay you’ve got your own favourite prep method already.
You know I’ve done frozen tofu before for stir fry and the texture turns out pretty awesome, i just fell out of the habit because of the forethought to prep being ever so slightly more.
I’d be curious to try freezing then frying with a cornstarch dredge first, that’s definitely my favorite crispy tofu method. I’m definitely gonna give that hawaiian garlic sauce a try, that sounds killer!
Cheers to the women of the fediverse, and the world, on your day. Glad to have you around :)
Happy International Women’s Day, everyone!
Thanks, definitely genuinely esteemed Academy Award nominated (but not this year) character actress Margot Robbie!
That’s definitely genuine esteemed Academy Award nominated (but not this year) character actress Margot Robbie to you!
My sincerest apologies, I’ve edited to be more respectful.
Yay
Hiii! Happy International Women’s Day! Transwoman here.
I never understood why some people are so weird online. I’ve gotten tons of creepy messages. I have an Instagram account where I only post my nail art and I get tons of creepy DMs on there. It happened when I posted pics on nail subreddits as well but I didn’t post there as much.
I really don’t know if I’m going to be able to treat myself today as I have been feeling very low energy for the past couple days but I’ve been able to take a nice long shower and do some self-care and I still have some energy left so that’s promising.
Since I have to leave the house to go to the drug store today, I might pick up some new skincare products while I’m there. I’ve been meaning to get a new exfoliating face mask for a long time, maybe today will be the day!
Oh that sounds like the perfect treat, take the self-care to that next level!
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess it’s because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
I hope you’re feeling a bit better soon, those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess it’s because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
Wow. Yeah, how dare we! We might have to start wearing mittens when posting so we don’t attract all those hand, nail and cross stitch fetishists 😭 (Edit: Just want to make it clear that I don’t mean to kink shame anyone. I’m cool with any kink/fetish as long as it hurts no one. It’s just about the weird, creepy and sometimes actually scary DMs)
those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
Oof yeah, it often does end up being weeks and months but I’ve been getting more and more breaks between them so I’m hopeful!
Hello back. I hope you’re having a good day. I am even though I’m not doing anything special to celebrate my womanness, just living regular life.
Had a very good day thank you, despite not really doing anything majorly out of the ordinary. Just on with the weekly Top of the Pops watchalong on Mastodon now, after a day of fiddling with code and cross stitch and meeting cute dogs while out on a walk. Not bad going, really! 😄
No idea what timezone you’re in but it sounds like it’s earlier there, I hope your regular day is awesome! Nothing wrong with just a nice, uneventful regular day.
My time zone is UTC -5.
I don’t want to invoke any negative memories but my curiosity is unsatisfied - what the hell do these guys PMed you about? We’re all anonymous on Lemmy and Reddit, nobody knows how we look or where are we from and yet publicly stating your own gender is enough to open the floodgates. It is baffling to me. Don’t feel obliged to answer of course if that’s a problem.
Going back to the topic - hello! I used today’s running routine excuse to treat myself with some sweet snacks. Unfortunately I didn’t pick the best ones so I’m left unsatisfied and with a thought that I exceeded my limit. Next time I guess.
To this day it baffles me too! But let’s just say general grossness and leave it at that :D
Well done on actually doing the running! I’m supposed to be using part of this afternoon to go for a long walk as well as doing the gamedev stuff, but so far all I’ve managed is hanging out on Lemmy. Oops!
I can honestly feel the disappointment of a poor sweet choice from here. Nothing worse than feeling like you’ve earned it only to “waste” the opportunity. You have my express sympathy.
As a guy with a wife and adult daughter who are active online, I just don’t get it either. My daughter was playing MMO games when she was little and I often had to take her keyboard and say, “Dude, she’s 7!” when guys would PM her really sexual stuff. She ended up just making characters with gender neutral names to reduce it. That’s from guys who know zero other than their gender. My wife gets all sorts of replies that are about her being a woman and nothing to do with the things she said. It makes no sense.
I’m so glad to hear Lemmy is better! I hope it continues to be a place where our interactions are based on our ideas and not our bodies.
Happy International Women’s Day, from a fellow woman on the internet. I honestly didn’t even realize that was today, my life has been a complete mess lately. I’m sorry you’ve gotten gross messages online, I like to joke that I’m so unattractive and unlovable that even online no one bothers me 😂
I spent most of this morning thinking it was still Wednesday so right there with you 😅
May your weekend be relaxing, and your inbox remain creep-free!
Back at you!
In reference to your user name, what do you stitch?
Oh that’s a can of worms. deep breath
Currently cross stitching Errol from Discworld, a steampunk style world map, and a design of my own based on one of this year’s Eurovision entries.
Currently knitting a pair of socks in ridiculous multicoloured yarn, and a poncho-style lacy shawl that will probably take a year (but it needs to be done by July 🤦♀️).
Currently not crocheting or sewing anything but that will no doubt be rectified soon! And then of course there’s all the things that have been put into hibernation that I’ll hopefully get round to finishing one day eventually maybe…
There’s a decent craft community on Fedi if you happen to be into any of these things!
That’s badass! I’m useless with any craft needles, cross stitch, sewing, knitting, crochet, etc, but I spent enough time as a kid trying that I can appreciate the time and talent put into even simple looking pieces!
Not a woman, but still: hello, welcome, 👋
It’s a shame a lot of women still feel the need to hide in order to avoid bad interactions online. You’d think we’d have gotten past that phase by now. After all, half the folks on this planet are women. And since it isn’t 1992 anymore, girls are in fact allowed on the internet.
Hiding perpetuates that stereotype, but I understand why they do it.
Yeah it happened more than once back on reddit that I got some creeper sending a pm, would usually chat politely with them for a bit before pulling out the good 'ol “You do realize I’m a guy, right?” - unfailingly got them pissed off and angry real quick.
For extra creep factor, it would usually happen after posting on /r/teenagers
Ew ew ew
It’s honestly just so much easier, I totally get it.
But let’s keep it light! Assuming the “Dutch” part of your username is accurate, I’d like to congratulate you and your country on a banging Eurovision entry this year.
It’s accurate yes :D and that certainly is an… annoyingly catchy song for sure!
I tried to hate it but turns out it’s impossible so just embraced loving it instead
🎵 Euro-pa-pa pa-pa pa-pa-pa 🎵
You are completely right. I got so used to Reddit being thousands of misogynistic, vile, ridiculous comments at every turn, yet in haven’t even thought about it until now. I haven’t seen a lot of that here. I haven’t been harassed at all or terrified to make a comment in fear of the hive mind making me wish I hadn’t been born. Thank you lemmings for being better humans.
I wish I had the time today, but they made breakfast and lunch for all of the women in the office and had some fancy chat thing.
Happy Women’s Day. Go to the spa. Take a long bath. Demand massages and cuddles. Something.
hi :3
Hello! See there are loads of us here really :D
yeah! i figure that a lot of women online stay anonymous because of how creepy guys can be
Except now we all know each other so any creeps better watch out!
We’re also all getting pizza tonight, if you’d care to join in with that part 😄
girl power 💅
heck yeah ill never pass up a pizza party
Hello and hey. I don’t usually think of myself as “a woman on the internet” because I’ve basically grown up with it. I don’t make any particular efforts to advertise it but I’m not against casually mentioning it. I’ve never had a bad experience on Reddit due to my gender, likely because I gravitated towards niche subs where gender was irrelevant to the discussion anyway.
International Women’s Day was widely celebrated in my native country, but much less so where I now live. I don’t really mind, because I don’t like the whole politically-correct celebrations that feel hollow and forced (“You’re a woman so, uh, here are some flowers! Women like flowers, right? Right???”) anyway I had a great day at work with my favorite team, then a nice evening at home with some D&D. I just wish I had time to walk my dog - that’s one of my goals for tomorrow.
Happy International Women’s Day to everyone! I volunteered at an IWD event this week and it was really encouraging and always eye opening. Many of us feeling imposter syndrome in our work and this ever-gnawing anxiety about the direction things are headed but just sharing and witnessing the courage out there was inspiring. We are out here and you are not alone!
Thanks for reaching in! I am just going to celebrate by taking care of myself this weekend, sleeping in as best I can, squeezing my cat, getting a massage, taking a walk, and planning out my balcony garden ideas for this year.
Honestly that sounds like such a brilliant weekend. Well played! And huge respect for the volunteer work, too, these sorts of things really make a difference to people.
Don’t leave us hanging like that, what kind of game are you developing?
It’s a very minimalist city builder thing, barely a game at all really. There’s some screenshots over on my alter-ego’s Mastodon if you’re genuinely curious, although they’re mostly hidden in a stream of nonsense from all the TV tooting I do on a weekend 🙈
I was kinda hoping you’d say it was based on Dragons
Yes, I’m old…
Love the visual style! And the concept sounds chill too. Wishlisted!
You’re a woman?
Well that can’t be right I’ve always operated under the assumption that on the internet the men are men, the women are men and the children are the FBI…
/s
Well hey hey hey! Always happy to see other women here. Have a great women’s day!
Right back atcha!
