My social media algorithms show me so many cool cosplayers, tomboys, pretty girls in a variety of nice clothes, alt girls, fairies with elf ears but never any attractive men doing anything cool or stylish or interesting that it just feels so lame being a guy.
I never see any attractive men (im bi) with interesting style or clothes or looking attractive in cosplay or being artistic and hot. Are dudes just so boring with their looks or is my algorithm just too skewed towards women?
“Anyone else?” = literally always yes
There have been some really strange things attached to that question before … Still though, it’s amazing how common strange things can be.
Well I mean there’s only like 8 billion other people, so certainly no one else has ever felt like me before.
I don’t know how to say this but I feel I need to because people here are being dicks with downvotes: have you ever considered that you’re a gender non conforming person?
It’s just that feeling you described seems like something you should explore in a more accepting environment.
That is for sure not my reaction to pictures of pretty women. But you do you.
Be the change you wish to see in the world. Be that attractive guy in an interesting artistic cosplay. See if that scratches the itch. You can dress well without transitioning, and you can transition without dressing well. The two don’t have to be connected.
Your algorithm is likely based on your past clicks. You probably give traffic to female cosplayers and not to male cosplayers.
I cant find stuff to draw inspiration from tho thats my issue
Just look at guys in media you admire. They don’t have to be real life. Say you like a character from a show, movie or game. I read about someone who started emulating a gentleman from a western game (forget which one) and it did wonders for his confidence.
Even if you look at real life, there are men’s fashion icons. I recall seeing Idris Elba rocking some nice suits for example.
Reddit has a r/mensfashionadvice with tons of inspiration. I’m not sure if Lemmy has a comparable community.
Or look at the women you think look good, and masculinize it. Women’s outfits aren’t all inherently womenly or anything, and even a dress or something can be made more manly if you need to and you’re willing to exercise that creative muscle.
I mean, no to the title question because that’s just silly.
But it’s also a no otherwise.
I’m not into cosplay for myself. Not my preferred way to spend money. But I’ve seen plenty of in person cosplay done by guys that are superb. It is less geared toward pretty, and more towards “authentic” character depiction, and almost always traditional male super heroes. There are some that bend genders, or pick characters that are less “macho” looking, but finding the relatively small percentage of guys that want to do that, have the skill to do it well, and have the funds to execute it isn’t exactly frequent.
More often, if a guy steps outside of the standard characters, they do it for the laughs, like this guy I saw doing sailor moon once. It amounted to booger drag, but that was the fun part what with rejecting gender norms in favor of just having a blast.
But online? Nah, the guys I’ve ever known that are into cosplay seriously don’t post things online because that’s a recipe to get trolled or outright abused.
Besides, “boring”, “cool”, “stylish” and “interesting” are all in the eyes of the beholder.
Cosplay isnt the point that was just one small scenario. Idc about authentic cosplay im just talking about wearing stuff that looks good.
If you actually tried finding the alternative I bet you’d find it.
Where? Ive tried
The internet.
Do you want to be the man looking interestingly attractive instead? Or is this an excuse to want to look like a woman?
Not everyone’s a pretty woman. You can’t just transition into a pretty woman.
I think you are seeing the appeal of drag my friend. Men’s fashion is generally less flashy and more traditional currently than women’s fashion. So those who are interested sometimes get into drag to model and make women’s fashion.
Also I think most men’s fashion has certain styles and subcultures that you might not be as interested in. Sneaker, caps and street wear is where the money is and most of the innovation. The rest is pretty standardized
I don’t know if it helps, but maybe thrift stores could be a way to try out some of your ideas without spending too much? I recently got some cool t-shirts at one of my favorite thrift shops for $2.99, shoes for $12.99, etc.
Wanting social attention could lead you to transition? I believe the answer it’s yes…
