Most of us on Lemmy are nerds in many ways, it’s part of why we’re on something like Lemmy as opposed to the more narcissistic social media platforms.
However many of us are cool sociable people, or extremely capable in something that others look up to us for, we just have nerdy hobbies or careers or tendencies, what are those traits or abilities that make others enjoy being around us or look up to us or would otherwise be described as “cool”?
Listen… I am a really good people person. Folks love to hang out with me. I am not quite sure why but I think that I am a good listener and others love this. My problem is, that I don’t enjoy that. I’m really good at something that I don’t enjoy.
Look around in the world and notife what is ‘cool and normal’ and ask yourself, would you like to be like that? I don’t, so I don’t care how to be ‘cool’.
Just go about youre life and live it the way you want, there is only one person who’s opinion should matter, you. (Maybe a 2nd, as living alone can get a tad boring)
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thanks dr. peterson!
I’ve developed courage that I never thought I’d be capable of. I can be very scared and keep myself moving.
Also I’ve got a bunch of great spotify playlists, from my time as an Uber driver (a job that lets you listen to and hence curate music for twelve hours a day). Today when the overhead music failed in the store I worked at, it was a bit awkward meeting with my clients. So I pulled out my phone and put on my “Jazz Low” playlist, which is for low-energy loungy jazz.
What? I’m not cool. But did hear someone at work tell someone else that I am “so funny”. Something I guess, at least.
I’m still trying to figure that out. I definitely don’t feel like I ring any cool bells to anyone.
I still wanna be like you when I grow up.
Aww thanks <3
I might like more “cool” stuff than nerdy but I still think I’m a nerd.
Not all nerds are nerdy.
I dress well, if you can be presentable it really opens a lot of social doors that don’t seem always available.
Confident but not cocky, try and make someone’s day better with laughter or a compliment. Ask questions that confirm you are really interested. Listen intently. Have a basic set of clothes that combine well into something about 25% the way of 'well dressed", whatever that may be in your style.
I have long hair and a particular fashion sense. That’s about it.
I’m not a nerd, why would you say that?
(nervously scratching my face while looking for any cool and elegant piece for clothing in the closet)
Big willie.
But seriously, big willie
