• @Tattorack@lemmy.world
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    -517 days ago

    Today in things that never happened:

    Or maybe it would happen in the US. I wouldn’t be surprised anymore.

        • _cryptagion [he/him]
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          87 days ago

          Listen, just because nobody has ever seen you as attractive doesn’t mean that’s the experience most people have.

        • YES. Literally yes.

          I’ve been approached by men who say I’m wearing too much makeup and that men don’t like that. That I should smile more if I want a boyfriend. That my clothes aren’t very flattering and it’s unattractive to him.

          Like, for all your talk of “go outside” you don’t seem to know what life is like for women outside.

          • Christian
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            Hearing a girlfriend express a lack of confidence because she wouldn’t get accosted kind of fucked me up. A moment of realization that the way the world is is so drastically different from the way I want to believe it is, I didn’t know where to start.

            I try to build a habit of reacting to feeling upset with behavior by thinking up a situation that could lead me to act in the same way, but I really struggle to imagine what would make someone inclined to approach a stranger on the street with this kind of comment.

            Totally unrelated, but I’ve seen comics from this artist before and they’ve always given me weirdly unsettling vibes. I can’t really pinpoint if it’s the dialogue or the art style.

            • @inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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              7 days ago

              Mine? America. I even live in a very blue “progressive” area. But I have friends in the UK that have similar experinces. Frankly, why would that even matter? This sort of thing happens all over.

                • AwesomeLowlander
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                  66 days ago

                  I live in Norway. While it is less prevalent here than elsewhere, please understand that it still very much exists.

                • If you were even vaguely representative of Scandinavians, I’d steer clear. Luckily, I have family in Norway and Finland, so I know you’re just an ass and are full of shit.

                  • @Tattorack@lemmy.world
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                    -76 days ago

                    Is that like the American “2% of something” family in Scandinavia? Because that really means very little.

                • @inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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                  I mean. Okay? Maybe? But that’s not really the point?

                  I’m just trying to address how unrealistic you thought this comic was. But it is a accurate depiction of a regular experince for many women’s lives.

                  Honestly it seems like you’re just trying to “win” the discussion by correcting others. When women talk about the problems they face, it’s not helpful for you to go “That doesn’t happen”.

                  • Christian
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                    17 days ago

                    When women talk about the problems they face, it’s not helpful for you to go “That doesn’t happen”.

                    Your bias is showing, that’s not a helpful response when anyone talks about their problems. Not just women.

                    Talking more seriously (but not that much more), I have some appreciation for being this brazen in the whole “I live in the real world and know women aren’t shown disrespect out of nowhere by men they don’t know, unlike you women with your lived experiences” shtick.

        • @Mac@mander.xyz
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          247 days ago

          I am not a women but if you go outside with them you will see it.
          Any time a woman stands up for anything that a shitty man disagrees with they say the same shit. Every time.