See, this is why I like my relationships 50-50. We both agree on something and each one pays their own food and we’re back at the house bumping uglies. Done.
Well, no. What happens with us is that either one of us says “want to go to X restaurant?” Far enough ahead of time that the other person hasn’t got some set idea of what they want this evening . So 90% of the time we just get “sure, thanks, yes”. And maybe 10% of the time a “no, but could we go to Y?”. Or a “No, I need to cook the chicken or it will go bad” And it’s literally never gone farther than that.
If my husband did what you are describing above I would be confused. Like if he said “we will go to $restaurant” like that I would assume he had a desperate craving for it and would say yes, as it would be uncharacteristic. But if it kept happening I would ask him WTF?
Guys, let me explain this weirdness. The woman usually expects you to lead, make the decision. You don’t ask, you tell.
“I know! Let’s go to $restaurant!”
Here’s the part where you’re expected to have a modicum of social skills, be able to tell if she likes the idea.
No? State another option. Don’t ask, state.
“Not liking that? OK, we’ll got to $restaurant2.”
Rinse and repeat.
Relationships require social skills, sorry guys, it’s true.
Nah, you’re just in a relationship with an immature person.
Wow! A real alpha male!
Yeesh. I like talking with my partners, not to.
My gf would get real pissed, real fast if I acted like this and I love her for it.
See, this is why I like my relationships 50-50. We both agree on something and each one pays their own food and we’re back at the house bumping uglies. Done.
Well, no. What happens with us is that either one of us says “want to go to X restaurant?” Far enough ahead of time that the other person hasn’t got some set idea of what they want this evening . So 90% of the time we just get “sure, thanks, yes”. And maybe 10% of the time a “no, but could we go to Y?”. Or a “No, I need to cook the chicken or it will go bad” And it’s literally never gone farther than that.
If my husband did what you are describing above I would be confused. Like if he said “we will go to $restaurant” like that I would assume he had a desperate craving for it and would say yes, as it would be uncharacteristic. But if it kept happening I would ask him WTF?
Where do we find these $resturants?