“Where do you want to eat?”
“Anywhere is fine with me. You pick.”
“How about burgers.”
“No, I don’t want burgers tonight.”
“How about…”
“No. Not there.”
“Okay, you choose.”
“I don’t want to choose.”
"You hungry?
‘Yes.’
“What do you want?”
‘I don’t know.’
“OK I’m craving burgers from X place. I’ll order two burgers in 30 minutes unless you tell me you want something else.”
So far it’s working well. Either she orders from where I want or somewhere close by.
‘I’m feeling Chinese.’ Baby you can get whatever you want. I’ll hit two spots or switch my order.
It took a couple years to get my wife to be more assertive about this stuff. I’d just keep picking places I knew she hated until she’d make a decision.
Just the other day she turned it around on me. Asked me which of two options I wanted, I said whichever she feels like and she came back with, “No, I want to know what you want.” So I laughed and gave her my preference.
My wife and I always give each other 2-3 options and take turns narrowing it down. Same with movies: We start out with our Trakt list and take turns narrowing it down until we get something we both want to watch.
Took me a second. Can relate.
“Where do you want to eat?” “Anywhere is fine with me. You pick.” “How about burgers.” “No, I don’t want burgers tonight.” “How about…” “No. Not there.” “Okay, you choose.” “I don’t want to choose.”
I gave up playing this game.
"You hungry?
‘Yes.’
“What do you want?”
‘I don’t know.’
“OK I’m craving burgers from X place. I’ll order two burgers in 30 minutes unless you tell me you want something else.”
So far it’s working well. Either she orders from where I want or somewhere close by.
‘I’m feeling Chinese.’ Baby you can get whatever you want. I’ll hit two spots or switch my order.
I’ve allayed liked that the idea that if you say no to a suggestion in this situation, it is now your turn to suggest something.
It took a couple years to get my wife to be more assertive about this stuff. I’d just keep picking places I knew she hated until she’d make a decision.
Just the other day she turned it around on me. Asked me which of two options I wanted, I said whichever she feels like and she came back with, “No, I want to know what you want.” So I laughed and gave her my preference.
My wife and I always give each other 2-3 options and take turns narrowing it down. Same with movies: We start out with our Trakt list and take turns narrowing it down until we get something we both want to watch.
Sounds like my wife.