Even if it wasn’t so much “manipulative”.

  • macrocarpa
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    466 months ago

    Not the most manipulative but

    Keep a log of the birthdays, hobbies and names of spouses and children of colleagues, managers, team members and customers.

    I learnt this from a guy who did executive search. People remember you, when you remember what is important to them.

    When I’ve lead teams it’s one of the first things I find out - note down when someone says “yeah Gary that’s my hubby, he’s super into gaming”

    • Gary (husband.)
    • likes gaming

    When you’re a manager, your teams families, partners and friends know your name. Reciprocating that - learning who is important to them - is really important.

    • @myliltoehurts@lemm.ee
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      126 months ago

      Has this ever backfired on you? While your motive is wholesome, I could see the practice itself seeming creepy. Like keeping notes of someone else’s life.

      • macrocarpa
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        166 months ago

        Yep. There’s people that want to keep distance at work and don’t appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.

        • partial_accumen
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          166 months ago

          Yep. There’s people that want to keep distance at work and don’t appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.

          • Jane (wife.)
          • likes the pool cleaner boy and has been sleeping with him behind her husband’s back for 8 months.

          Some people just don’t like to have their hobbies shared.

    • @NoNotLikeThat@lemm.ee
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      36 months ago

      I do this too; it’s a great way to get to know your team and develop genuine bonds. People generally enjoy when you show signs of caring and interest in them beyond their work role.