Even if you often try to make that person feel understood and empowered to express their views, everyone’s needs are different. For example, if they tend to feel inadequate or are self-conscious about their achievements/intelligence/etc., you may need to go the extra mile here.

Try to identify all the positive and negative interactions with them (i.e., those in which they get the impression that they are right versus those in which they don’t) and make sure that positive ones greatly outnumber negative ones. If you need, you can try to acknowledge more situations wherein their contribution to a conversation deserves praise, or even simply not point out their mistakes if the question at hand is not critical for you (easiest imo).

When a person says this, sometimes even if they do it in a positive tone, it’s usually a way to verbalize more concrete concerns that you should address. For example, they might feel that you are always dismissing their opinions, that you don’t listen to them in general, or they would simply like to get support when they express their views in a group so they get some recognition. In any case, they feel like you can do something to help but may not feel comfortable to express it or may not have fully identified it. If that person is important to you, you should be able to see what they want and take action.

Okay, my answer is pretty removed, but I’d say I’d like a system where decisions are made by submitting automated proofs of their optimality, either absolute or over all submitted proposals in a defined time frame. The conditions of optimality would be pre-defined in a Constitution, and non-provable facts would be accepted or rejected via a decentralized voting system that would keep multiple diff chains and penalize e.g. voting for facts that are later proven false via a submitted proof. The proof system would hold all powers, but would be able to delegate decisions to entities under proven rules, which would come faster but possibly be overriden.

I tend to upvote everything, no matter how much I disagree. I don’t trust my own opinions or the authors’, all of them are flawed in some way.

Huh… Is this a reference to how all those nazi high ranks ended up within NATO governance? Otherwise I might be missing the point…

I’m a Marxist-Leninist, member of an organized group.

I believe countries try to shape and weaponize citizens’ opinions about other countries, so I refuse to defend or criticize them unless I can argue that doing so is beneficial to my ideas (i.e., not based on feelings or ethics). Thus, I’m neutral towards most countries and defend multipolarity.

I tend to doubt my ideas as much as I can.

It’s impossible to systematically lie to an entire country’s population about the country itself. It’s never happened anywhere on Earth and will never do so with current technology. It is however trivial to lie about other countries, which I like to always keep in mind. Think for a moment what reason a Chinese person would even have to dislike their government, when they are clearly doing a good job and actually solving their problems. Even the victims of Tiananmen weren’t those often talked-about “pro-Democracy” students, most were anti-liberalization communist worker protestors.

You can see it in the sidebar. E.g. !asklemmy@lemmy.ml has 12.7K subscribers.

It’s 6 am here and I’m still awake lol, I’ll need hella coffe to get through the day.

It is, but unlike elsewhere, ML folks are usually not banned or defederated here, only if they break rules (like insulting other users).

My bad then

Well, Twitter is a lot larger than Reddit, so more people were involved, but Mastodon was actually a lot (250x) larger than Lemmy before the exodus, so while Mastodon only increased its user count 4-5x, Lemmy is already past the 10x mark and the exodus has barely begun!

There is not a single Reddit, but there’s a single Fediverse, offering a single alternative to every social media. And it’s growing faster than ever. We shall win!

Can’t find anything about that over on GitHub, sorry…

Well, there are not many details to share anyway (registration is just username/password, e-mail is optional). And since everything is federated, they’d need to bring down all of Lemmy, which may not even be possible for them due to different instances being hosted in different countries.

I’ve been upvoting every comment and thread since I joined lol. Now for the first time it’s actually becoming harder to keep track of them!

I’ve had a great time on Lemmy since I joined over 2y ago. But well, can’t keep all the fun to ourselves, right? :) Now this place is all yours too. Welcome aboard!

No, there’s no central server. To my knowledge, servers federate either manually or by their users manually exploring other servers. But most servers at the moment are already federated with each other.

It’s Reddit but federated. A federated service is one that works like e-mail, i.e. there are multiple providers/servers/instances but all of them are connected so it doesn’t matter which one you choose. Additionally, Lemmy is federated to other services (e.g. Mastodon), forming what’s known as the Fediverse.

1. No, you only need one account on one server and you’ll be able to see posts and comments everywhere else.
2. Yes, although a few specific servers are blocked by other specific servers, and very small servers may not show many communities elsewhere until their users actually subscribe. But yes, beehaw.org and others work just fine.
3. You can see a list of all communities here. Also Lemmy federates with Mastodon, not just Lemmy instances among themselves, in case you’re also using that.