Few years ago I changed my nick on PSN because I coudn’t stand my old one anymore. I choose a name that sounded feminine to say the least. Unicorns and shit, don’t ask. So naturally people thought I was a gurl or at least super gay. I felt the change of behavior immediately.
In Destiny 2 alone I got revived way more often. People went out of their way to run across the open world map just to get to me. Damsel needed rescue I guess. I got a lot of invitations to Raids “Hey, we are LFG and we can explain everything to you if you want to”. I got these messages while standing arround the main hub. Doing nothing. While wearing the Raid exclusive Exotic on my character for everyone to see (fucking Eyes Of Tomorrow is almost as big as my char). I got called “bitch” and “slut” many times…come to think of it, that wasn’t new. Party invitations out of nowhere, chat invitations out of nowhere.
In Warframe some guy gave me an item for half the price for no apparent reason, after that he send me a chat invitation, I declined and he send me a PN wishing I would get raped. Another one I thought was afk in a mission, but no. He was just typing a message to me: “Hey, how are you doing? You new to Warframe?” Again, me jumping around in a highly optimized Nekros/Atterax build…
Sooooo online gaming is full of psychos. I didn’t question that but it was then when I fully understood how bad it was. There are a lot of women playing games, some even play Call of Whatever is cool atm. They just stay quiet and play eighter with friends or with other women. There are nerds out there who are beyond insufferable.
When I was about 13 or 14, I revealed to my WoW friend (who I’d been playing with for months) that I was a girl and within a day he went from being my cool friend to someone who was offering me raid gear in exchange for talking dirty to him through Ventrilo.
Nearly 20 years later and I refuse to let anyone in on my gender. It’s dehumanizing that we can’t even play a game without being harassed.
I often play female characters and occasionally have the same experienced.
Recently i started a new game, someone helped me with something that I thought would take like two minutes, but it went on and on and he was friendly and helped me further. When we were finished after at least an hour, he said something which made it obvious he thought that I was a woman. I corrected him and he said “oh, lol” and immedeatly left the group. So fucking weird.
It’s also funny to me because i never even look at usernames, neither in games or reddit, lemmy, etc. don’t know why, but I just skip over it. So I don’t even come to think who the person might be. Only when I’m in a group and have adress someone specifically I read what the names are.
We used to do that intentionally to get free shit.
this is sadly how men are treated differently irl as well
The comments: No way, women don’t play games. I never see them.
Yeah no, they might not be on your games. But having seen the sheer lust for Link, I’m not surprised switch is popular.
And the crazy thing is, the industry really doesn’t do a good job at this. The numbers could really be higher, especially mobile, but the sheer number of male fantasy waifu games out there is ludicrous. (Although, unsurprisingly, the dollars earned from whales are overwhelming male, especially internationally where the wage gap is higher, so that’s what drives that).
Not to mention that a lot of women have bad experiences with online gamer guys being sexist assholes, so they might not want to call attention to themselves.
Ngl, I met some hot chicks on Apex and Overwatch. A few became LDRs.
What’s an LDR?
Women also make up 50% of PC video game players and 54 percent of mobile game players.
I find a lot of these figures really hard to believe, to be honest.
Looking at the link, there is little I can find about their methodology.
Sims is pretty popular and the main version everyone plays is PC only, but can be run on laptops and other low end PCs. There are a lot of ‘I only play Sims’ people out there. Could account for some of the numbers
50% of video game players makes sense to me, depending on what you count as a video game player. If, say, it was anyone who’s played any video game in the last year, I believe be about right. Sims, among us, the dinosaur game in chrome, wordle, etc. it adds up
Men probably dedicate more time to gaming and make it a bigger part of our lives, hence why it would seem more common.
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I hate it when people gatekeep what a game is. I’m a guy. I play Word Cookies constantly. Does that make me a gamer? Because I can literally play it for hours. I don’t play Call of Duty or whatever, I play Word Cookies on my phone. I would say that still counts.
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Tell your gmom to 1v1 me on Rust
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Well if they’re including mobile gaming, I can see it.
It’s pretty clear that games being male oriented has been somewhat of a self-fullfilling prophecy for decades. Publisher’s and manufacturers have pretty much exclusively targeted young males and so it shouldn’t surprise anyone that they historically made up the bulk of the market as a direct result.
It’s honestly embarrassing how long it’s taken for that mindset to shift when there’s an obvious financial disincentive to perpetuating it.
Debatable whether there is a disincentive, the conventional wisdom as to how it came about was that toys are marketed in a gendered way and Nintendo decided to explicitly target their products at boys only to avoid spending double on ads.
If they were right, and marketing costs were not commensurate then, we might have passed the break even point since, but that’s no guarantee.
Plus it’s objectively easier to make successful products for a narrower audience (though “men” isn’t exactly narrow).
so many comments in disbelief lol, almost like gaming is more accessible now hmmmmm
im doing my part!
Me too! But I still avoid voice chat… :P
I’m seeing indie projects like BattleBit where they’re taking a very hardline stance towards voice toxicity, and I’m curious if that environment change could ever make it feel like a safer space to speak.
Yes sadly me too :( I play multiplayer with my fiancée or with my FFXIV guild, but no one else
Ugh same. The number of gross comments I’ve gotten on vc over the years is enough to fill a book.
I’m mainly on PC now though, playing single player games or games with my fiancée and/or friends
It’s cool to see the numbers and warms my heart to know that everyone is enjoying games.
About time
Yay equal sexism and racism for everyone! Hope they can get past the bold asshats that feel secure being behind the internet. The mute feature in many games is extremely handy. I still get people in my dota games being extremely sexist when a women speaks
Been playing multiplayer games since I was a kid, I’m in my 30s now, I am loooong past the point of ever playing any online game without automuting everyone unless I know them. I’m utterly done with letting loudmouth shitheads ruin my enjoyment. Even games where they substitute an in-game chat with some emote bullshit, I mute those too.
One of the things I like about LoL Wild Rift on mobile is that they have a detailed ping system so you don’t have to use the in-game chat (because it’s on phones). It’s so much nicer than PC LoL. The games move faster, so no one has the time to pull up the touch keyboard and harass you.
Well, my gf uses more my switch than I, so yeah.
You read it here, video games are for girls. Now stop playing games and get to work. /s
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I’ve been playing mmorpgs for years or at least since tibia, lineage, pwo and mu and all my guild leaders have been women, with a sustancial quantity of women was well on parties and guild wars. What’s this all about
I can say from my experience most women I know are gamers. I’d say the biggest difference is they tend to play more single player experiences. My older sister has always been a big jRPG nerd, and my younger sis was always into Bethesda games, especially Fallout. Meanwhile a lot of my friends are into life sim games like Stardew Valley, the Sims, and Animal Crossing, and we tend to play the latest big nintendo game together.
I am probably the only person in my group of friends that does anything remotely multiplayer, unless it’s local or coop.
cool. i can say from experience most women I have ever met do not play video games.
Women play games huh? Name 3 women, I’ll wait.
It was a joke, FFS.
Lemmy is much more sensitive than Reddit.
