Could it be “over another person”? Asshollery is kinda universal
This. The worst person I’ve ever worked with happened to be a woman. She was an awful human being.
I’m so guilty of talking over other people and I hate it. Please fix me.
Especially in online meetings with no camera. Without seeing body language, I often think people are done talking so I start talking, but they were just resting between sentences. Oof.
Online is the worst–I think the slight delay is a big factor as well. We both start before either realizes the other was speaking and it’s very uncomfortable.
But also I’m just a bad interrupter. I often have an idea I’m so excited about I just blurt it out without even thinking about the fact that someone else is in the middle of speaking. I don’t know why I’m like this, I’ve tried to stop and I have made some progress but it still happens way too much. Best progress I’ve made so far is rudely start talking, realize 1 second later I should not have, apologize, and tell the other person to keep going.
Have you’ve been checked for adhd? I have some friends with it and they tell me about similar scenarios
I’ve had a lot of people, including professionals hypothesize that I might have it. When I was younger I was very opposed to psychiatry and behavior altering meds so I didn’t really take them seriously or cooperate with their attempts to find out. But I think it’s possible.
I’ll echo what others are suggesting and say give it a look.
I went undiagnosed for years and really struggled with a number of things. I’d talk over people, interrupt, and finish peoples sentences (to name a few that may resonate with you.) I was consciously aware of what I was doing and frequently battled the urge to do it. I eventually went and got diagnosed …and holy hell what a difference it made. It was no longer urgent to express an idea before it was lost to the “noise.” It wouldn’t hurt to speak with a doctor / specialist about it; you have nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain.
Realizing you want to improve is the first step to growing into a better person!
ADHD symptom
If they had something more important to say they would say it louder
I’m in the same boat, but one day I just stopped talking and started listening, mostly as a social experiment on myself. Now everyone thinks that I’m really smart. It tears me up inside sometimes, but I like the outcome.
“Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”
Have you tried Adderall or strattera?
It’s not the crime people claim it to be IF you aren’t trying to deliberately down others out.
In all fairness, there was 12 minutes left in the meeting and Bob has been waiting for the seniority members to shut up for 24 minutes to get a single word in edgewise.
Sometimes there are benefits to being an androgynous transfemme with an unfortunate case of “Dr. Girlfriend Voice”
If I get interrupted talking 3 times in a meeting I get up and walk out. This isnt beers with the boys or brunch with the gals, if my opinion cant be respected in full I have work to do.
I’ve worked remotely for years. With the “raise hand” options its usually a very “talking pillow” type of taking turns.
Rarely there’s back and forth but it’s clear when someone talks over another and you can thankfully mute people.
I believe the old Internet can provide us with the most appropriate response:
“Shut up and make me a sammich.”
I love how the men who can’t help but pipe up about how “ackchyually” this isn’t the case because reasons all magically happen to anecdotally be the statistical anomalies of what decades of research (not to mention their reflexive reaction) has repeatedly proven is a real problem that exists across all walks of life.
Like pretty much all posts about anything even remotely feminism related, it is a self selection mechanism that they just can’t help but react to.
