• Jo Miran
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    915 months ago

    A month? I’ve known guys for years and still don’t know their names and it is WAY too late to ask.

    • @credo@lemmy.world
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      115 months ago

      That’s when you figure out a reason to hand them a clipboard and say, “Imma need you to sign in.”

  • southsamurai
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    325 months ago

    Jfc, if you knew how long it has taken me to know the names of some of my friends, and not just work friends or gym friends, it would be absurd.

    Hell, even after months of hanging with someone, you might not know their last name; it’s all “hey, I’m zipper”. Why zipper? “I dunno, you know how it is”. Yeah, I feel that. Anyway, went a beer, zip?

    My chronic pain/disability support group shares space with an autism support group. Not a single one of the autism group knows my actual name afaik, but we’ll hang out down the road at a diner some nights as a mixed group when we’re meeting at the same time. It’s all “hey, beard!” And “sasquatch, wanna see my cat?” And sometimes just “man”. I’ve known some of them for years and we don’t know each other’s actual names. A couple of them, I’ve been to their house, and vice versa, and we don’t know each others last name at all.

    One guy in specific came over, heard my wife call out my name and was confused as hell because my name sounds like a regular word and thought it was a different nickname. Asked for the story behind it, and I had to show him my driver’s license because he thought I was fucking with him. We’d had dinner together at the diner dozens of times.

    No need for real names when you’re bros

    • @MutilationWave@lemmy.world
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      85 months ago

      After fucking around for a while turned into being exclusive for about six months, the woman who is now my wife realized that we didn’t know each other’s last names. If she hadn’t brought it up it’s hard to tell how long I would have gone not knowing.

    • @drolex@sopuli.xyz
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      55 months ago

      The obvious way out of this situation: open your own kebab place and start calling him bossman or chief.

    • @MutilationWave@lemmy.world
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      05 months ago

      Here’s a fun way to play it- say “We’ve talked so many times over the years, and I bet you don’t even know my name.”

      If he does, explain that you said that because you don’t know his, laugh about it. Get his name and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.

      If he doesn’t, then say “Well we’re in the same boat because I don’t know yours!” Exchange names, and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.

  • @DJDarren@thelemmy.club
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    225 months ago

    “I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes…” - Ron Swanson

    • @Tankton@lemm.ee
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      25 months ago

      Excellent point, if you’re just 1 on 1 with someone you dont need their name except to talk about them with someone else.

      • @LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world
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        I’m always terrible with names but they do come in handy

        Hey,who’s working ____'s shift Thursday?

        Who do I need to talk to in HR?

        who makes the schedule?

        Ask ___ if they can cover your shift.

        Email ____ for me and see if they have a copy of that report.

        Can you tell ___ to come see me.

  • @TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    I have ADHD (+ other stuff) and so names has always been a massive issue for me. A few years ago I just stopped trying because I don’t talk to most people anyways. out of the ~25 people in this class with me right now (fun fact! I am breaking a law by being on my phone rn :3) I know the name of,
    1: teacher
    2: girl with pink hair
    3: trans friend
    4: person who sits next to me and cannot understand what a function is to save his life
    5: someone who I sat next to in 3rd grade

    The others, no earthly idea. I have COWORKERS in this class who I don’t know their name 😓

    • @devfuuu@lemmy.world
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      35 months ago

      I spent more than 4 years working in a place were I just knew the names of the 10 people immediately around me. People kept talking about person X or Y from another floor or room and I had absolutely no fucking idea who they were talking about.

      • @MutilationWave@lemmy.world
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        So I travel all over for work at different places. I’ll start telling a story about something that happened three weeks ago to a coworker. “Oh yeah, where were you at?” Me- blank stare half the time.

        Sometimes it comes to me after a few seconds, sometimes I can’t even remember which state I was in.

        I used to be awful with names but I got better at that. Still below average, but better. I do have ADHD for what that’s worth.

    • @proton_lynx@lemmy.world
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      25 months ago

      2 things that make it a little bit easier to remember other people’s names is repeating the name of the person after he/she just said it and trying to associate with another person you know that has the same name. It’s not perfect but it’s better than forgetting every single time.

    • sag
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      25 months ago

      I have ADHD (+ other stuff) and so names has always been a massive issue for me. A few years ago I just stopped trying because I don’t talk to most people anyways.

      Me_irl