• @shalafi@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Bingo! Can’t remember the pics I used, but I went for several different looks so women would know what they were getting into, not just my very best. That comes across honest, because it is.

    Aimed for pics of me doing interesting and active things like kayaking and cooking and such. No dead animals, hot rods, motorcycles, bros, etc. No stereotypical manly bullshit.

    Also, inject some humor. Like an old friend told me about sales, “If they’re laughing, they’re buying.” On one post I ended with, “And as god as my witness, I hate NASCAR.” Ended up married to a huge NASCAR fan.

    Pro tip for the guys: Setup an account as a woman looking for a man. Take an afternoon and dig around. See what the other guys are doing? Do not do that shit.

    • @5too@lemmy.world
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      My wife still remembers one of the profile pics I had - I was goofing around wearing a super-sized cereal box on my head.

      Had that one, a “normal” shot that was my profile picture, and some casual shot I don’t remember now. Put that one up on my sister’s advice, and that’s the one that still stands out in my wife’s mind!

      I swear humans use confidence and humor the same way peacocks use tails. If you’re comfortable being silly, it says a lot about where you’re at socially.