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I agree that victim blaming should not be allowed on here, but I also think it’s important to understand what the person meant before replying negatively, especially when the person is Autistic and may not have the same ability to articulate their thoughts as that of a neurotypical person.
If you respond negatively to an Autistic person that has similar problems as I do (not all do, of course) when they didn’t intend the meaning you understood, they’d feel emotionally hurt and would feel the need to defend themselves. In cases like these, I tend to fixate on my original statement and just defend it beyond all reason even if I know logically that it is wrong and I should stop. It is something I am working on, but it’s very hard not to because I feel immense stress and in that moment all I want is to make it go away. The only method I can think of to do that under such stress is to continuously attempt to justify myself in an attempt to negate the negative response.
In some cases, I may also flee instead of defending, in which case, I would end up deleting my account or just never using it again, which is what appears to have happened to the person who was defending the original commenter. They seem to have deleted all their messages and their account.
I agree that victim blaming should not be allowed on here, but I also think it’s important to understand what the person meant before replying negatively, especially when the person is Autistic and may not have the same ability to articulate their thoughts as that of a neurotypical person.
If you respond negatively to an Autistic person that has similar problems as I do (not all do, of course) when they didn’t intend the meaning you understood, they’d feel emotionally hurt and would feel the need to defend themselves. In cases like these, I tend to fixate on my original statement and just defend it beyond all reason even if I know logically that it is wrong and I should stop. It is something I am working on, but it’s very hard not to because I feel immense stress and in that moment all I want is to make it go away. The only method I can think of to do that under such stress is to continuously attempt to justify myself in an attempt to negate the negative response.
In some cases, I may also flee instead of defending, in which case, I would end up deleting my account or just never using it again, which is what appears to have happened to the person who was defending the original commenter. They seem to have deleted all their messages and their account.